A Chick-Fil-A Roundup

Just about anyone interested in evangelical Christianity or LGBT rights, or like us, both, has been talking about Chick-Fil-A lately in response to comments made by president Dan Cathy. The controversy isn’t exactly new, but it has become a prominent fixture on the news and Facebook walls in recent days. Rather than adding to the running commentary we thought it would be beneficial to point you to some of the more insightful articles we have encountered.

Rachel Held Evans offers words, in her typical humility, candor, and insight, for Christians on both sides of the Chick-Fil-A War.

Conor Gaughan reminds us that real people are involved in these discussions, and real people are affected by comments on both sides.

Jonathan Merritt makes a case for eating at Chick-Fil-A.

Jeremy Marshall critiques Chick-Fil-A Appreciation Day, and offers some constructive thoughts to the LGBTQ community about how to win Christians over.

Elizabeth Scalia writes about being able to express one’s opinions without being considered hateful.

And finally, we all need a little humor in our lives. So, check out Tripp York’s satirical take on the whole debate, Chick-Fil-A Refuses to Serve Gay… Chickens.

There are many more articles out there for sure, so if you have one you think folks ought to read, then please post it in the comments. Also, we would love to hear your feedback about the whole controversy and these links in particular.

(It probably should go without saying, but we are not necessarily endorsing any particular view presented. Rather, we are trying to offer a variety of viewpoints in hopes that a better, more civil dialogue will be possible.)

Why So Proud Elijah?

Our third post in our “Hey Gays, Why So Proud?” series is brought to you by Elijah McKnight, of Marion, Indiana.  This is Elijah:

Elijah is working on beginning a LGBT Christian/Conversational/Committed to Action group within his local area that will be focused on the following:

  1. Facilitating Fruitful Discussions – This group will be a safe place for conversations, lectures, debates, and learning opportunities.
  2. Fostering True Discipleship – This group will be committed to passing on the ancient, sound message of the Gospel and what it means to truly follow Christ.
  3. Faithfully Making a Difference – This group will make sincere attempts to stand up for justice, mercy and compassion in the community.

We asked Elijah, “What does Gay Pride mean to you?”  And he said this:

At first glance towards these two words, I was not so much concerned with the word “gay” as I was with the word “pride.” I think this word needs to be carefully defined, because we are are surrounded by a culture that prides itself in self-interest. This is the greatest disease of the soul. In a self-interest sense, pride is the chief of all vices.

As a man who has a same-sex orientation, I also know that self-hate is very damaging. The gay Christian needs to be cautious with both vices – pride and self-hate.  The God of Love is ever seeking us, pursuing us even in the midst of our journey of working out sexuality. God truly loves boldly, because love covers a multitude of sins, including prideful self-interest.  He teaches us to take pride in the only true thing worth prizing and that is the Cross.  It is through the Cross that the bad kind of pride is killed and we are made alive.  When I think of Gay Pride, I think on the amazing love of God who is willing to take my brokenness, past hurts, wounds, and make me whole.  Gay pride to me means that I am working out my salvation as well as my sexuality with fear and trembling, with respect for both dangers (self-servitude and self-loathing). Why?  Because the God has loved boldly.

Got a response to Elijah?  Leave it below.  I’m sure he’d love to respond!

Faithful Questions

Often times when we don’t know what to say, we ask stupid or offensive questions. I know as I have traveled and encountered people from a variety of cultures I have offended more than one by asking an inappropriate question about someone’s life or experiences. Many well-meaning straight folks, especially from traditional Christian backgrounds, do the same thing when we talk to LGBT neighbors. So, we have compiled a short list of questions that we hope will be more faithful, and will help us have better conversations.

  • What are misconceptions you are afraid Christians (or I) may have of you?

  • How did you reconcile your faith to your sexual orientation?  

  • What makes you view homosexuality differently than other things that are typically seen as sexual sins?

  • To be honest, I’ve always had the perspective that same-sex relationships were wrong.  What are your thoughts about that?

  • What have been your experiences with the Church?  Have you ever felt ostracized, shamed, lesser, etc.?

  • What do you wish Christians knew about you?  What annoys you about Christians?

  • Are you seeing someone?  

  • Would you mind sharing with me what it was like for you when you came out?  How did your family respond?  Your friends?

  • Will you share your perspective with me on…. (civil unions, right to marry, ordination, adoption?)

  • What could the church do to make you feel comfortable coming back?

  • Why do you still go to church, even though you have been hurt by so many Christians?

  • How have your religious beliefs helped or hindered you along the way?

  • What was it like for you when…

  • How did you make it through that? (any difficult time they’ve experienced)

  • Do you prefer vanilla or chocolate cupcakes?